Focus on Solutions Rather Than Resolutions

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With the New Year already here, resolutions are on everyone’s mind.

I’ve never liked the word “resolution.” As defined in the dictionary, resolution means “a firm decision to do or not do something,” and anyone who’s ever done, well, anything knows that life rarely works like that.

I prefer to think of my January decisions as New Year’s solutions. Defined in the dictionary as “a means of solving a problem or dealing with a difficult situation,” solutions are useful and practical. Thinking about them now helps us find peace in whatever may happen in the year ahead.

The best solution I can think of, and one that is especially helpful after the excess of the holiday season, is to focus on ONE thing and let go of the LIST of things to do.

I often hear stories from people who decide at the beginning of a year that this will be the one when they’ll be able to fix xxxxx.

My feedback for all who are constricted by a negative diet mentality: let go. Move on and commit to a daily ritual focused on one area. Confidence arrives with competence, stated by my business coach.

The crux of this philosophy is that in order to get that which we want, we must let go of our need and desire for it.

This may sound impossible, unattainable, and completely contradictory; however, this is where freedom lies.

I know firsthand that letting go is the path to freedom and joy. My struggle with weight started when I was 12 years old and my uncle told me I was fat. When I got older, I thought that if I could only lose the extra weight, I would be happy.

I did lose the weight— only to gain it back—I yo-yo’d because I never understood what my body needed. I skimped on protein, limited calories and never exercised.  Eventually I achieved what I thought was my goal; I was thin, so I should be happy, right?

I was more miserable than ever. I was so worried about gaining the weight back, so scared that I might relapse, that I couldn’t enjoy my newfound health.

I was stuck living in fear that the future would not be what I wanted, that I would lose control, that my hard work would be for naught.

It was only when I figured out how to live in the present, how to be focus on the now and not concern myself with worrying about things that had not even yet happened, that I was able to be happy.

Years later I decided to get focused and learn as much as I could about nutrition, exercise and having a positive mindset.

After learning to do that, not only was I content for the first time in my life, but I also was able to keep the weight off without worrying about it.

We achieve the life we desire when we begin living for the moment, in the moment, and because of the moment. Finding happiness in this New Year will not be an outcome or a result.

How can your foster this way of being in your life? It begins with looking at those things we desire most and finding the bliss in working toward them in the present—not in achieving them in the future.

Achievement is still the goal, but ironically, you only get there by letting go of the need for it.

In other words, I invite you to fall in love with your New Year’s Solutions, with the transformation, growth, and healing you are experiencing for its own worth.

Let go of the outcome you want to achieve, be it weight loss, wealth, or finding love, and find the beauty and bliss that comes with being in the moment. Gratitude as a practice has been known to reduce stress in a single moment, a mili-second.

Stop by my Facebook Page, Health Talk with Christie Flynn on Mondays for The Weekly FB Live Podcast called, The Mindful Motivator.

 

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